Friday, February 5, 2010

Hi!
Now that you have your diet and you are eating well and feeling better, I hope, and exercising, we will now talk about stress. When you do your exercising, your stress level should be reduced considerably. Stress adds to FMS just as it does to all other ailments and diseases, pain, etc. We cannot avoid having stress in our lives, but how we deal with that stress is within our control.

There are all kinds of stressors out there and within ourselves. We must be able to distinguish from where the stressor is presenting itself to us. Is it an environmental stressor or an internal stressor to the environment. Is it the other person, or is it our reaction to the other person. What can we control and what can we not control. It is important to identify those stressors which we can control. Those that we cannot control, we shall have to let go. However, the stressor we can can control, can be controlled by our mind.

How we perceive stress is more important than the stress itself. Sometimes, we are our own worst enemies caused by our perceptions. Not the first to say it, but how we face adversity is the measure of who we are. Can we rise above it? Can we turn away from it? Can we perceive stress as something else?

These are all questions we each must answer for ourselves. There are hundreds of books and articles written about stress and how to deal with it. On the surface, it appears to not be a simple concept. But if we look deeper at it, stress that we can control usually comes from our own perception.

Do we percieve what is happening as an affront to us, or a threat to us in some way? How can we perceive the stress another way? If we think of perceptions as solely coming from our mind, why can't we make our mind think of the stressors as soley from our perceptions.

You will have to contemplate this concept, try it on with one thing that gives you stress and try to look at it from a different perspective. Perhaps you will simply take yourself away from the stressor and that will be the end of it. You might try not putting yourself into that situation again. That is just one idea.

You might think your spouse is angry with you, but if you do not perceive that anger, and do not repond to that anger with anger, perhaps you might perceive that anger as some emotional pain which he is feeling and, you might be able to try to evaluate what that pain might be that would make him appear to you to be so angry. Perhaps, he does not know how to express that emotional pain and holds it in, only to express it in the only way he knows how to, which is anger.

It is all your own perception. We will talk about this some more next time.
Think about it. Hope you have some feedback for me.

So for now get a good night's sleep, eat well and be free of pain.
shirley

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